Love at first sight

Do you believe in “Love at first sight”? Well, people who know me may say that how will I know? I had an arranged marriage and fell in love after I got engaged! I have not seen any of my friends who had “Love at first sight” either. But I do have friends who were in love at first and then got married. Some of them had loved some one and married a different person for various reasons.

Now, I can understand the feeling where you see some one, get attracted, make friendship, know them for a while and then decide to spend your life with them. But, love at first sight? I mean the meaning of love is different from what you feel by interacting or just seeing a person the very first time. My opinion is that crush or infatuation is often mistaken for love at first sight.

Come to think of it, people who claim to have had love at first sight are couples whose love succeeded. If it did not they would say it was just a crush and move on. But the truth is that the feeling when you see a person for the first time is a mere physical attraction, infatuation or some thing like that which blossoms into love as the relationship grows.

Love at first sight is like looking at an outfit in a store and feeling that it would look great on you. But it may actually look stunning on the mannequin and may not fit you. Assuming I fell in love with this dress and now that does not fit me, or may be it does not look as stunning on me as it looked on that skinny and tall Barbie doll mannequin. Now what? I get a little disappointed and take it out and leave it. I think it is the same with people too. We may think it is love at first sight but they might not be a perfect match.

My next question is if I had love at first sight should I do what ever it takes to have that person? Sounds reasonable, one should try to make their dreams come true. But what if the other person does not like me? Should I go the extent to shake his/her life to achieve my love? How does it work? I have seen several movies where the guy who is said to fall in love with a girl makes several attempts, gets beaten if necessary for the girl. OK, now the sympathy factor kicks in and the girl falls for this guy.

But you are what you are. Even if you change your attitude a little bit or to a great extent to get the girl or the guy, you get back to your self after some time. Then what? Incompatibility leads to misunderstandings, frustrations etc. So, I guess before diving into all this love mania one should practically think if the other person will suit him/her to have a peaceful life. Life goes on. It does not stop because you did not get the one you liked. You will eventually get some one to be with. Remember Yash Chopra’s movie “Dil Tho Pagal Hai” – Some one some where is made for you!