Why are you a man?

My son is 3yrs 7mths old now. He started asking why for every word we say, every sound we make, and every thing he sees around. It is so difficult to answer (correctly that is) to all his questions. I am very particular to answer his questions to precision as my point is that he is learning every second. But my husband takes it easy.

He gives him all weird answers which I do not like but you know I try to ignore them not to start a fight :-)I think I can write a book on the questions he asks. They are so interesting. I mean I am surprised by his curiosity and his memory power. He remembers every answer I give him and uses them later when time comes. So I better be careful in answering his questions.

Yesterday (Friday) my husband was having breakfast and my son jumps to sit on his lap and looks at his face closely. My husband does not shave on Friday and the weekend. So he saw traces of moustache and beard on his dad's face and started his interrogation. Here is their conversation:

Son: Dad! What is this on your lips? (He touches it and asks him)
Dad: It is hair (I thought why he can’t say moustache - I usually give him a look, why can’t you answer properly :-) To that he says, will you relax, I am having fun with him. Shouldn’t I ever have fun with my Son?

Son: Hair? No it is not hair. They are whiskers.
Dad: He smiles heartily, gives him a kiss and says no they are not whiskers, it is called moustache.

Son: Why do you have hair on your lips? Hair should be on your head
Dad: Ok hair that grows on lips is called moustache. You want one?

Son: Moustache? Why do you have moustache?
Dad: Because I am a man

Son: You are a man? Why do you have hair on your chin too?
Dad: Hair that grows on the chin is called beard.

Son: Beard? Why do you have a beard?
Dad: Because I am a man

Son: You have moustache and beard because you are a man?
Dad: That’s rightSon: Why are you a man?(I loved this question.....I was waiting to see how he answers it)

Dad: Puzzled look smiles and says if you ask me more questions you will get whiskers and beard like me. You want them now?

Son: Mom, why is daddy a man? (Now it's my turn to impart knowledge to my son)
Me: Ummmmmm because he is a grown up boy and when you grow up you will be a man

Son: I will be a man? Why will I be a man?
Me: Boys when they grow up they become men

Son: When I grow up will I get whiskers too?
Me: They are not called whiskers. It is a moustache. You will get both a moustache and a beard

Son: Starts crying. I don’t want to be a man. I want to be a boy. I don’t want whiskers, I don’t like dad.
Me: Why don’t you like him? You love him and he loves you so much.

Son: He says that I will get whiskers and beard. I don’t want to be like him.

From then on I tease my husband asking him why is he a man :-)

After 8 days of being tagged, I came up with my list of 8’s

Well, I have been tagged by Sophizz (Sophia) 8 days ago. Thank you Sophia for tagging me as I thoroughly enjoyed writing this one. I sat and thought for quite some time to make my list of eights. Added some, deleted some, moved the positions based on priority – I am telling you I took a lot of time to write this one

I told my husband about this tagging game and asked him to tell me about his list of passionate 8’s. He gave me a silly laugh - me and passions? Are you kidding? When I gave him a look:

I won’t leave you until you come up with some thing

He started to think. I asked him the easiest category first –Travel. He immediately told me 8 places he would like to travel. When it came to passions he took 4 hours to make a list of 3 that too I put words into his mouth by giving him options to pick and choose. He couldn’t even do that. His first passion after thinking for 1 hour was "sleep". And that’s it; he couldn’t come up with anything else.

Then I asked my 3 year old and he immediately came up with 10 passions in no time. I am not sure if he knows the meaning of passion but the list makes lot of sense. These are things he loves soooooo much. He was ummmmmming for every item, rolling his eyes, counting with his little fingers oh my god you should have seen him…

Cars
Trains
McQueen Car (from Disney pixar’s movie)
King (from Disney pixar’s movie)
Chuck (from Disney pixar’s movie)
You (me)
Dad
Amamma (Grandma)
3 Wheeler cars (He recently saw in TV)
Gold fish crackers

I was so proud of him, hugged him gave him a 1000 kisses, danced with him. I was sooooo happy. Of course I gave my husband one more look –

See, this is me in him. Watch him and learn some thing.

I am glad that he got all my traits and none of husband’s when it comes to imagination. Seriously man otherwise life gets so boring.
Here comes my list of 8's:

8 things I am passionate about

Nature
Travel
Honesty
Intelligence
Helping others
Driving listening to melodious romantic songs
Understanding and analyzing people
Accomplishments and achievements

8 things I want to do before I die

Write a book on relationships and marriage (write more but this is one topic I already started)
Direct a movie (a romantic comedy)
Sing songs for movies – music director preferably Shankar Eshan Loy – I love to sing with orchestra. Learn how to play guitar.
Fly a plane with my husband and kid to my side
Hike some tallest mountains or peaks – first in my list would be Half dome and El Capita in Yosemite, California
Act in Theater
Become CEO of some S/W company
Build our dream house from scratch on a nice hill top with an Ocean view in a rich village like Saratoga in San Jose, Tiburon in San Francisco, Los Altos hills, San Diego

8 places I want to visit before I die – I added this category

Manas Sarovar
Kashmir
Kerala
Delhi – Travel the whole city and live there for some time
France – Start from Louvre museum and travel to all the locations mentioned in the book Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown
Costa Rica
Amazon Basin
Alaska

8 things I often say

What is the point? / There is no point / The point is – There should always be a point in what ever I say or do J
Thank you
Sorry
Ayyo Rama (usually used to convey “I don’t mean that” or to convey “you are mistaken” with close Indian friends)
Really?
You know what?
I don’t think so
Oh my god.

8 books I have read recently

I don’t read many books. From the past 3 yrs it has been mostly parenting magazines, Weight loss and exercise magazines, Hollywood gossip magazines, local Indian magazines about NRIs etc.

The 2 recent books which I really liked:

Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown
Who moved my cheese? By Spencer Johnson

8 songs I could listen to over and over - I gave the links you can watch the videos.

Pehla pehla pyar hai – Hum Appke Hain Kaun
http://youtube.com/watch?v=gIODEFkvjTA

Chand sifarish jo karta hamara - Fana
http://youtube.com/watch?v=fBKbZH2lHVg

Ankhon mein teri – Om Shanti Om
http://youtube.com/watch?v=fOszdaumexk

Hai mera dil - Josh
http://youtube.com/watch?v=Bk5H_ZQvdNA

Chand Chupa badal mein – Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam
http://youtube.com/watch?v=J8gqpnU0Ahc

Sanso ko sanso mein dhal ne do zara – Hum Tum
http://youtube.com/watch?v=sjDZTT9BXGM

Tu jahan – Salaam Namaste
http://youtube.com/watch?v=sjDZTT9BXGM

Kal ho na ho – Kal ho na ho
http://youtube.com/watch?v=chf5uvR9n7o

8 things that attract me to my best friends

Smile
Honesty
The way I talk
I am very energetic and enthusiastic some times quite restless
I go beyond my means to help my friends
I advise a lot. I am very caring and listen to their problems
I have lot of funny stories to share. I can make them laugh so much.
Innocence and Ignorance – I act innocent if I don’t like some thing but I am actually ignorant of many things :-)

What if she does not deserve my love and affection?

These days there are several guys who want to get married but are not able to find the girl of their dreams. I am talking about Indian guys. I have come across several guys who say that they have been browsing several matrimonial sites themselves while their family and extended family untiringly search for the appropriate girl for this boy. The process is taking a few years for some. The guys do not like most of the girls. One of my friends when asked what he wants in a girl he said it is enough if the girl is not evil or wicked. I was shocked to hear that.

Another friend of mine has been searching for a girl to marry from more than a year. He is very disappointed with every girl he meets. What is going wrong here? Is it really true that today’s girls are so bad? Why is it that the demand and supply are not in sync? How come so many girls are not matching the requirements of the guys and vice versa? I heard that if the guy finally likes the girl she rejects him for reasons like he is not an NRI, is not a software professional, does not earn enough etc. Are they trying to find a life partner to lead a happy peaceful life or some thing else?

My friend here says that he has seen couple of his friends who are fulfilling the role of a wife, mother, daughter in law, sister in law etc perfectly. He is trying to search for a girl who is like that. He is not able to find a girl who matches his wish list. But how can he? I mean how does he know if the girl can fit all those roles by talking to her for a few days? I am positive she can and will fulfill the different roles if you cooperate with her. Marriage is never a one man army. It is a game played by two as partners and they have to match their ideas and views to get on well. It is a relationship you develop while living together not some thing to be found ready made.

He asks me what if she does not deserve my love and affection. That is a very wrong thing to say. When you love some one you should do so without being selfish. Give her your love with out expecting anything in return and you will be surprised to see what she has to offer. If you ask me, nobody is evil or bad by nature. People around them, circumstances and some situations make them behave that way. As long as you are a loving and caring person the other person will be the same with you. There is a saying:

Ask not go on giving, waves of happiness will come forward to wet your feet. You need not move forward to reach them.

It is so true. If you don’t have any expectations you will appreciate what you have in life. Don’t get me wrong I am not saying don’t be ambitious. I mean to say that with a huge wish list in your hand no single girl is going to fit your dream girl role and you will be disappointed later for not finding the right girl. Be reasonable and accept the fact that you are not a perfect guy either. I am really surprised to hear from some people their wish lists. I just cannot see how a girl who matches that list will agree to marry this guy as he will never match her list.